Think about the last time you had an awful day. Maybe something happened at work or in your personal life that made you feel really down. How did you talk to yourself? Did you berate yourself for messing up, or did you lift yourself up and tell yourself that tomorrow is a new day?

Self-talk is incredibly powerful, and it can play a significant role in how we feel on any given day. Negative self-talk can often make us feel worse, while positive self-talk can boost our mood and help us feel more confident. In this post, we’ll explore some of the benefits of positive self-talk, and we’ll look at how to start incorporating it into your daily life.

What is positive self-talk?

Self-talk is basically when we talk to ourselves, either out loud or in our heads. It can be positive or negative, depending on what you say to yourself. If you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, you’ll start to believe it. But if you tell yourself that you’re doing your best, you’ll be more likely to succeed. Positive self-talk is simply telling yourself good things about yourself on a regular basis. It is the voice in your head that encourages you and tells you that you’re capable of anything. Positive self-talk isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. When you start treating yourself with respect and kindness, everything gets a little bit easier.

Related: The Voice Within: 75 Self-Talk Quotes to Inspire You

 6 Reasons to Start Talking Positively to Yourself

When you get in the habit of talking positively to yourself, you’ll start to see many significant changes in your life. Here are a few benefits of talking kindly to yourself.

Importance of positive self talk

1. Positive self-talk can improve your mood and make you feel happier

It can be tough being in a bad mood. Especially when you’re not entirely sure why you’re feeling low in the first place. A great way to start combating those negative feelings is by doing some positive self-talk. Just by talking positively to yourself, you can give yourself a much-needed mental boost.

2. Positive self-talk can improve performance

While many different factors can improve performance, one key factor appears to be positive self-talk. Many studies have shown that athletes who use positive self-talk as part of a psychological skills training package experience performance benefits. In other words, talking positively to ourselves about our abilities and potential can help us focus on our performance instead of worrying about it all the time. (1)

If you are committed to using your self-talk to your advantage, I recommend Dr. Shad Helmstetter’s book What To Say When You Talk To Your Self. It is an easy-to-follow guide that will teach you how to talk back to yourself effectively, so your voice becomes more positive! This book has helped many people find happiness.

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3. Positive self-talk can help boost your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself

We all know the importance of having a healthy self-esteem. But sometimes, it’s hard to keep our self-esteem high when we’re going through tough times. That’s where positive self-talk comes in. By regularly telling yourself positive things, you can begin to feel better about yourself and your life which will also boost your self-esteem.

Related: 35 Self-Esteem Journal Prompts

4. It can reduce stress and anxiety, which can lead to better mental health overall

The things we say to ourselves can have a powerful impact on our emotions and behaviors. If you’re like most people, your self-talk is usually negative, which can lead to increased stress and anxiety. However, there are proven benefits of using positive self-talk to manage stress and anxiety. By learning to control our thoughts and emotions through positive self-talk, we can create a more peaceful and empowered state of mind. This, in turn, can lead to a more positive outlook on life and improved mental health.

5. Positive self-talk can boost confidence

Self-confidence is key to happiness and success in life. Unfortunately, many people struggle with low self-confidence. Thankfully, there are things you can do to boost your self-confidence. One of the best things you can do is practice positive self-talk. Positive self-talk can help you see yourself in a more positive light and increase your self-confidence. If you’re struggling with low self-confidence, try incorporating some positive self-talk into your daily routine and see how it makes you feel.

Related: 50 Positive Affirmations To Boost Your Confidence

6. Positive self-talk can help motivate you and give you the push you need to reach your goals

If you’ve ever struggled to get out of bed in the morning or found yourself procrastinating on a project, you know how hard it can be to get motivated. But what if there were a way to give yourself a little encouragement and motivation without having to rely on anyone else? Believe it or not, positive self-talk is one of the simplest (and most effective) ways to do just that. By using positive phrases and mantras to talk yourself up, you can give yourself the boost you need to reach your goals.

Related: 40 Happiness Journal Prompts for a More Joyful Life

How to use positive self-talk in daily life

The power of words and positive self-talk cannot be stressed enough when trying to improve your life. However, many people have a hard time being kind to themselves. Here are some helpful tips for incorporating more positivity into your life.

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  1. Start your day off with a happiness affirmation. Repeating positive words to yourself will help you believe them more deeply. You can also create a mantra that will help you stay focused on your strengths and abilities.
  2. Put post-it notes all around the house or workplace reminding you of what’s important to remember (i.e., “I am enough” or “be kind”)
  3. Always be mindful of your thoughts. When negative thoughts start to creep in, try to replace them with positive ones. If possible change your environment to make yourself feel better (ex., listen to music, get outside)
  4. Think about the things you’re grateful for and express them out loud to yourself.
  5. Try to say something nice about yourself every day, such as “I’m so proud of myself for finishing this project” or “I love how I handled that tough situation.
  6. Celebrate your successes – every time you make progress towards a goal, remind yourself of how proud you are of what you’ve accomplished so far.
  7. Use visualization techniques – close your eyes, take deep breaths, visualize yourself achieving your goals, etc…
  8. Start a journal and keep an ongoing list of the things you like about yourself and what went well in your life every day.
  9. Find something that gives you joy in life and do it as often as possible (e.g., watching TV, reading books)
  10. Surround yourself with positive people who motivate you and make you happy (e.g., friends, family)
  11. Stay mindful and aware of the present moment – instead of thinking about what’s going on in the future or past, focus on what is happening around you at this very moment.
  12. Look for opportunities to do something nice for someone else, even if it’s just paying for their coffee when they’re in line behind you.

Related: 60 Random Acts Of Kindness

Final Thoughts

There are many benefits to positive self-talk, and it’s something that we should all be doing every day. So make a commitment to start talking to yourself in a positive way—you won’t regret it! It’s not always easy to talk yourself up, but it is necessary. At the end of a long day or tough task, remind yourself that you can do hard things and your abilities are good enough for success.


  1. Theodorakis, Y., Hatzigeorgiadis, A., & Zourbanos, N. (2012). Cognitions: Self-talk and performance. In S. Murphy (Ed.), The Oxford handbook of sport and performance psychology (pp. 191–212). New York: Oxford University Press.


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Hermione M.

My name is Hermione. I am the founder of WomenH and I write about women's health, wellness, mental health, and personal growth. I created this platform to inspire women to take care of themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally to become their best selves. Thank you for stopping by.

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