You have recovered physically from your delivery, your doctor even tells you that it is safe for you to resume your sexual activities, but things are not as expected. You never thought that regaining intimacy after childbirth would be so hard. But here you are! You are so overwhelmed by your new responsibilities as a new parent; you barely have time to think about sex. But intimacy and sex are crucial for a healthy relationship.
The following tips will help you to improve postpartum sex.

1- Make sure you are ready

Take your time. Don’t force yourself to have sexual intercourse if you are not ready for it. If you’re not sexually aroused enough to produce lubrication, it might be painful. When you are ready, you will be able to do what is necessary to enjoy yourself.

2- Talk with your partner

When it comes to sex in a relationship, communication is key. Talking to each other will help you to identify your need.
If your partner is ready for sex and you are, try to make them understand you need more time but, most importantly, reassure them that you are not pushing them away. Coming to a mutual understanding will help you to take things slowly until you are both ready.

3- Be patient

Postpartum sex might not be good at first. You will probably experience some pain or discomfort. Many women don’t have orgasms for weeks or months after delivery. So you may need to lower your expectations. Thankfully things will get better with time.

4- Warm-up

Don’t forget foreplay. It is all the stuff you do before penetrative sex. It has both emotional and physical purposes. It prepares your body and your mind about what is about to happen! It will increase lubrification in your vagina and make sex more enjoyable! So don’t skip touching, massaging, kissing, licking, etc.

5-Use lubricant

In the weeks after delivery, many women experience vaginal dryness because of a low level of estrogen. For breastfeeding moms, the dryness is more marked and can last as long as they are still breastfeeding. A lubricant is your new best friend.

6- Make an effort to get your sexy back

Body image is a real turn-off during postpartum. Your body has changed, and it might take some time to return to the way it was before pregnancy. Don’t let your body image ruin your sex life. Treat yourself with a new beauty routine, sexy lingerie, or self-care time. Return to exercise. Walking is a great exercise you can do with your baby in his carrier or stroller. Engaging yourself in more self-care activities will help you to regain your confidence. Don’t hesitate to unfollow any social media page that makes you feel bad about yourself.

7- Make time for sex

With that demanding little human by your side, spontaneous sex will be rare.
So unless you schedule some intimate time, you will barely have sex. Make it happen, or it won’t happen. So plan; try to get help with the baby for a few hours to reconnect with your partner. It will allow you to have sex when you are less tired, less anxious, and more relax.
If you are a nursing mom, planning is the best way to avoid leaky breasts during sex. Try pumping or nursing your baby before. You can also opt for nursing pads and nursing bras.

8- Enjoy quickies

If making time for sex seems impossible, sometimes, don’t worry! Quickies got your back. It is easier to find time for speedy sex than a more elaborate sex session. When your baby is napping, you might want to enjoy a quickie on the sofa, in the bathroom, in the garage, name it! Also, it doesn’t have to be penetrative sex. Rapid oral sex or mutual masturbation can make both of you happy.

9- Practice kegel exercise

A kegel exercise involving contracting and releasing the vagina will help you improve and regain your vagina’s shape. It will also restore tone to the pelvic floor muscles. Strengthening these muscles can lead to stronger and more intense orgasms.

10- Ask for help

Exhaustion is one of the major reasons why women are not into postpartum sex. Ask a family member or friend or get a babysitter if possible to help with the baby so that you can get a little rest. If things don’t seem to get better and the dyspareunia (painful sex), talk to your doctor. It might be related to other health issues. Your doctor might also recommend seeing a pelvic-floor physical therapist who will help you improve your pelvic floor’s strength and function.

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Hermione M.

My name is Hermione. I am the founder of WomenH and I write about women's health, wellness, mental health, and personal growth. I created this platform to inspire women to take care of themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally to become their best selves. Thank you for stopping by.

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